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The Importance of Feeling Your Feelings: A Path to Personal Growth

The AHA! Team — Mon, 21 Apr 2025 05:08:02 +0000

Dr. Don Colbert – By Meredith’s Counseling Center, located at the Colbert Institute for Anti-Aging in Southlake, TX. Visit us at SouthlakeCounselingNearMe.com Why Feeling Your Feelings Matters Emotions are an integral part of the human experience. They guide our decisions, shape our relationships, and influence our well-being. However, many people struggle to fully feel and process their emotions, often suppressing them or projecting them onto others. Learning to sit with emotions, understand them, and process them in a healthy way is essential for emotional well-being and personal growth. Research in psychology and neuroscience supports the idea that emotional processing is key to resilience, self-awareness, and healthier relationships. Additionally, inviting God into this process can provide profound comfort, guidance, and healing. The Science Behind Emotional Suppression A study by Gross (2015) found that suppressing emotions can lead to increased stress and poorer mental health. Pennebaker (1997) discovered that people who avoid processing difficult emotions are more likely to experience anxiety, depression, and weakened immune function. Conversely, individuals who express and process their emotions experience better psychological and physical health. The Danger of Taking Feelings Out on Others When emotions are unprocessed, they don’t simply disappear—they often manifest in unhealthy ways: Lashing out at loved ones Withdrawing emotionally Engaging in self-destructive behaviors This is known as emotional displacement. For example, someone who feels hurt by a loved one might take out their frustration on a coworker. Baumeister et al. (1996) found that unresolved emotions can lead to aggression, relationship conflict, and long-term emotional damage. How to Process Emotions Healthily 1. Name and Acknowledge Your Feelings Psychologist Dan Siegel coined the phrase “name it to tame it”, emphasizing that labeling emotions reduces their intensity. For example, instead of reacting impulsively, saying, “I feel hurt because I was ignored,” helps you address the emotion constructively. 2. Practice Mindfulness Mindfulness—the practice of being present with your thoughts and feelings—has been shown to improve emotional regulation. A 2011 study in Psychiatry Research found that mindfulness meditation increases gray matter density in brain regions associated with emotional control. 3. Express Emotions Constructively Journaling, talking to a trusted friend, or engaging in creative outlets like art or music can help in processing emotions. Pennebaker & Seagal (1999) found that expressive writing improves mental and physical health by helping individuals make sense of their feelings. 4. Seek Professional Support Therapy provides a safe space to explore and process emotions with the guidance of a trained professional. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) are particularly effective in helping individuals understand and manage emotions. The Role of Faith in Emotional Healing Inviting God into the process of emotional healing can be transformative. Dr. Don Colbert, in his book “The Spiritual Zone,” emphasizes aligning emotional health with spiritual well-being: “When we bring our pain, fears, and struggles to God, we open ourselves to His healing presence. God meets us in our brokenness and provides the comfort, wisdom, and strength we need to move forward.” – Dr. Don Colbert Prayer, meditation on Scripture, and surrendering emotions to God can bring peace and clarity. As Dr. Colbert explains, “The spiritual zone is where we allow God to work in our hearts, transforming our pain into purpose and our struggles into strength.” The Link Between Emotional Processing and Personal Growth Personal growth is about learning to navigate emotions effectively. When we allow ourselves to process our emotions, we gain: Self-Awareness: Understanding emotional triggers and patterns. Empathy: Becoming more attuned to the emotions of others. Resilience: Developing the ability to recover from emotional setbacks. “We cannot selectively numb emotions. When we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive ones.” – Brené Brown Conclusion Allowing yourself to feel your feelings is not a sign of weakness, but a courageous step toward healing and growth. By processing emotions in a healthy way—rather than suppressing them or taking them out on others—you build resilience, improve relationships, and foster a deeper understanding of yourself. For those who seek spiritual support, inviting God into this journey can provide unparalleled comfort and guidance. As Dr. Don Colbert reminds us, true healing occurs when we align our emotional, physical, and spiritual health. Ready to start your healing journey? Visit Meredith’s Counseling Center to learn more. To read the original article click here.

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How to Begin Finding the Root Issue of Your Anxiety & Depression + Everything You Need to Know About Tapering Off Medication

AHA Publisher — Thu, 15 Oct 2020 07:00:30 +0000

Dr. Caroline Leaf – Human mental health is infinitely complex. We all battle in different ways, we all struggle, and we all need to learn how to cope, process, feel and experience life’s ups and downs. The fundamental way we do this is by listening to the signals our brain and body send us, like anxiety and depression, and by getting to the root of what these mental and physical symptoms are telling us about the imbalance in our life. In this podcast (episode #208) and blog, I speak with holistic board-certified psychiatrist, acupuncturist and yoga teacher Dr. Ellen Vora about how it is possible to learn to understand and manage our mental health by embracing these signals and listening to what they have to say, how facing the root of our fears and anxiety helps us find true healing, what a functional medicine approach to mental health looks like, why the current system of mental healthcare needs to change, the relationship between psychotropic medication, withdrawal and mental health, and more! As Ellen points out, progress in mental healthcare is always about the why: understanding the root cause(s) of why things are out of balance and why we experience what we experience. If you are a mental healthcare professional, you have to show up as a beginner with each new patient or client. Never walk into a room thinking you know what is going on or how to fix the issue. Be an infinite learner—even if you are just someone listening to a loved one describe their struggles. Show up with generous deep listening and become comfortable with the fact that you may not know what the problem is and that you have a lot to learn. Mental health is about people’s unique narratives, not just their biology, and this cannot be learned in classroom textbooks. Indeed, mental health is all about taking a good look at our internal lives. As a culture, we have become emotion-phobic. We try to suppress our feelings or apologize when we express what we are dealing with and cry, but we really need to let our emotions flow, not hide them. No emotion has ever successfully been pushed away. Resistance is a dance against our feelings. Issues like depression and anxiety are often symptoms of unprocessed thoughts and issues, which change the way we feel, mentally and physically. As the saying goes, what we resist, persists! Only when we surrender and feel what we are feeling can we resolve it. Our feelings are trying to tell us something we need to hear—we need to let down our guard and listen. Anxiety, depression and other types of mental distress are not diseases. They are symptoms telling us something is out of balance, and we need to explore this “why” and find the root cause(s). Unfortunately, our current system of mental healthcare tends to focus on reducing or suppressing these feelings and their biological repercussions, to the detriment of getting to the root of the issues. If you are very symptomatic, psychiatric medication may narrow the range of affect, which some people may find helpful for a certain period of time. However, these medications are not a cure; they are a bridge that may help you get to a place where you can heal. (For more on this read my blog on chemical imbalances in the brain, read the book Anatomy of an Epidemic by Robert Whitaker, and check out the Mad In America website). However, for many people, psychotropic drugs do not meet their mental health needs and have many unwanted side-effects. These people often find it incredibly difficult to stop taking them, and need help during the withdrawal process, which can be challenging. Withdrawal from psychiatric medication is what Ellen calls a “silent epidemic”. There is no one system in place to help people withdraw from these medications, and professionals are often not taught how to support their patients or the best way to help them withdraw. In fact, not a lot is known or published about the best way to taper off psychotropic medications, while many professionals tend to deny the validity of people’s struggles when they are in withdrawal, often confusing this process with “relapse”, which further distorts the situation and can make the person’s mental distress more chronic and acute. But going through a withdrawal does not mean you are broken or helpless. These drugs change your brain, but the good news is that you can change it back! If you decide to withdraw from a psychotropic drug, you want to do it gradually with the help of a medical professional, so your brain and body can learn to compensate and adapt over time. You also want to support this process by changing your lifestyle and including helpful practices like a good diet, regular exercise, mindfulness and meditation, yoga, breath work, acupuncture, appropriate supplementation and so on. Why? Withdrawal needs to be paired with targeted action to calm down the nervous system and keep it at a comfortable baseline so that the withdrawal process will be more bearable and less symptomatic. Also, keep in mind that the actual pace will be unique to the individual and will take time. To read the original article click here. For more articles from Dr. Axe click here.

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How to Unwire Addiction & Toxic Habits from Our Brains, Why Focusing on “Willpower” is Ineffective and Counterproductive

AHA Publisher — Fri, 09 Oct 2020 07:00:17 +0000

Dr. Caroline Leaf – The human brain is designed to be habitual—this has helped us survive over the centuries. But what happens when we build toxic habits that hold us back? How do we overcome negative thinking patterns that keep us stuck? In this podcast (episode #206) and blog, I speak with social psychologist, bestselling author and podcast host Dr. Amy Johnson about how we can find true and lasting freedom from unwanted habits, how to not be afraid of change, how to build new habits based on insight, not willpower, and how to help someone change without becoming an enabler. As Amy notes in her book, The Little Book of Big Change: The No-Willpower Approach to Breaking Any Habit, a thought is essentially our ability to have an experience. This experience can be either good or bad; what is important it how we react to the experience and take it in. If you are dealing with a recurring issue or addiction and nothing has helped you so far, it is not because you are broken or there is something wrong with you. The solutions you tried could not fix you because you don’t need fixing in the way you think you do. Your brain is like a machine; it is demanding that you do something or act in a certain way because it has been conditioned by your behavior (which often happens unintentionally). It is not something that needs to be fixed; it needs to be shifted and changed by your insight and understanding. You control the process—it does not control you. You are not bound by your past. You are free to be who you want to be; you don’t have to walk around in fear and shame. Indeed, overcoming a bad habit or addiction is not about making something go away or stop. It is about learning how to be free of the urges to act or think in a certain a way, separating yourself from them and observing these desires as an experience, not a necessity. This deep insight will increase your self-compassion, helping you recover, readjust and overcome what you are facing. We need to see our urges as moving, changing experiences that we don’t have to act on or believe. If a thought or desire comes back, this doesn’t mean we are still sick or we have failed; it is just a passing memory. We don’t need to fear it, because we understand that it is a fleeting experience, not an illness or disease. Essentially, where we direct our energy, the brain follows. This becomes a bad thing when we take an experience and make it a part of our own narrative, rather than letting it move through us without latching onto it. The more energy we give this habit, the more room we give it in our mind and life. Overcoming bad habits and addictions means shifting your mental energy away from the thoughts behind these habits—they are slowly dying, even though they may still affect your behavior in some way. The key point is that the habit or addiction no longer owns you. Breaking a bad habit is not about elimination, it is about shifting your energy away from the habit. Where your mind goes, your brain and body follows! When it comes to breaking a bad habit, if you just focus on your willpower, you keep giving the bad habit mental energy by thinking about it constantly, and it stays alive. So, what’s the solution? When you are dealing with a toxic thought or habit, it is tough to do much in the moment, because this is often when we are at our weakest—it almost feels like we have been hijacked by our thinking. It is far more important to focus on the bigger picture and the insights you will gain before and after, which help you move forward. In the moment, the best thing you can do is let go and let the feelings move through you so you can “reset” instead of pushing away or numbing your feelings. When you are calmer, you can start accessing the wisdom of your experiences. If someone you love is battling with an addiction or toxic habit, help them explore this. Be with them as they try to discover who they are and how their experience works. Be present and help them see that they are not broken or ill. Help them gain insight into what their experiences are telling them. Have those deep, hard conversations—this will allow them to tap into their natural wisdom. Don’t see the person as broken or ill; don’t just assume that they are doing this to upset you or make your life difficult. See the truth behind their behavior and know that they are doing what they do to cope; they are in pain and are afraid of facing their experience. This article has been modified. To read the original article click here. For more articles from Dr. Leaf click here.

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